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NLP Exercise 2: Rate Your Unhealthy Boundaries In Each Life Area

Read through the list below and rate your unhealthy boundaries: -10 = worst; 0 = neutral. Remember that issues of a - 4 to -10 are deeply imbedded into your unconscious mind and require NLP techniques that make changes there. Scores over -30 means poor boundaries are disrupting your life. Over 90 signifies 'major disturbances' in your relationships

- Can't say no even when it's best to: family, friends, children, boss, socially (list who)
- Doing things you don't want to, because you feel you have to or should. With who? When?
- Doing things because no one else will? 
- Easier to do things yourself rather than ‘wait for’ or teach, someone else.
- Your relationships are abusive or codependent
- Not getting along with certain people/personalities types: Who? What type?
- Poor self care; not taking care of yourself. When? Where?
- Trying to be what others want you to be
- Pleasing others (even against your values, wishes and beliefs) so they will like or love you
- Letting others control you, choose your values, how you feel, think, behave, who you are.
- Letting others make choices for you
- Trying to please others by being who they want you to be.
- Feeling alone, separate even when in a crowd or always distancing from others
- Feeling stuck, stressed, anxious, depressed, guilty, jealous (etc. )most of the time
- Always searching for security outside of yourself and never finding it
- Feeling like you 'have' to be a perfectionist
- Feeling like you always have to be talking and being uncomfortable with silence
- Always having to be in control of yourself, situations, others, life etc.
- Being overly sensitive to your feelings being hurt by others
- Dealing poorly with criticism
- Being oversensitive to what others say or do
- Looking for mr/mrs right, so you will be happy
- Stressed out easily, often, even by little things
- Living in denial
- Always giving, even when you don't have enough or it's not up to you
- Falling in love or sleeping with anyone who is nice/attracted to you
- Being sexual only because you fear losing someone's approval or love
- Spending your whole life working or doing
- Abusing your body with to much/little: food, sex, alcohol, drugs, work, exercise
- Being overly reckless and/or impulsive
- Trusting people too much and too quickly
- Never trusting anyone
- Expecting others to take care of you: parents, spouse, friends, family, employer
- Feeling anxious or depressed all the time
- Falling apart so others must take care of you
- Feeling sorry for yourself, (poor me attitude) as if it always rains on your parade
- Letting people touch you after you have said no or feeling afraid to say 'no don't touch me'
- Touching someone after you have been told no
- Feeling like a caretaker or that you have to take care of everyone else
- Abusing your mind, body, soul by doing what others want
- Taking advantage of others by violating their boundaries or without knowing when to stop

Healthy boundaries improve confidence and relationships~ Jan Mitchell

As you and I work together, I individualize your NLP sessions for your specific needs. I coach you to make unconscious changes that are safe and long lasting.
As we change your 'poor boundary mental program' to the 'healthy boundaries mental program', your behavior will change. You'll say 'No' when you choose to, deal with criticism and conflict well, you'll gain new awareness, release the past and automatically integrate new choices and skills.

NLP 're-programs your brain' so you automatically develop healthy boundaries ~ Jan Mitchell

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