- You'll be more your 'self' when you are with others (take your power back)
- You'll comfortably be assertive (in ways that work for you!)
- You'll deal constructively with criticism
- You'll handle conflict in healthier ways
- You'll develop your understanding & communication with others (& self)
- You'll let go of old relationships and issues (and move on)
- You'll choose your own thoughts, feeling and attitudes
- You'll make your own choices and decisions
- You'll be comfortably assertive (when you choose to be)
- You'll tell others what is important to you
- You'll take responsibility for yourself, your choices and your actions
- You'll let others take responsibility for themselves
- You'll retain balance in relationships
- You'll let go of control and being controlled
- You'll have more trust the process of life's ebb and flow
- You'll know that it's OK to say no
- You can be close to another person and still be yourself
- You'll define your own standards, values and beliefs
- You'll respect other peoples right to be themselves
- You'll take care of yourself
- You'll feel whole and complete
- You'll feel connected with your peaceful center
- You'll listen to your inner guidance
- You'll understand yourself & others
- You'll understand your 'reaction' to people & situations
- You'll overcome 'preset' negative mind programs and emotions
- You'll separate your feelings from other people's emotional 'stuff'
- You'll respond with greater choices & better communications
- You'll evaluate information you receive before you make decisions
- You'll reprogram your mind for emotional health

Over-sensitive? We probably wouldn't worry about what people think of us if we could know how seldom they do ~ Olin Miller

NLP Exercise: Rate Your Unhealthy Boundaries

Read the list below and rate your unhealthy boundaries: -10 = worst; 0 = neutral. Issues that are -4 to -10 are deeply imbedded in your unconscious mind and require specific NLP Hypnosis techniques for you to change. Scores over -20 suggest treading carefully, scores over -60 signifies 'disturbances' in several life area's. Over -100 = Get Help Now!!

- Can't say no even when it's best to: family, friends, children, boss, socially (list who)
- Doing things you don't want to, because you feel you have to or should. With who? When?
- Poor self care; not taking care of yourself. When? Where?
- Trying to be what others want you to be
- Pleasing others (even against your values, wishes and beliefs) so they will like or love you
- Letting others control you, choose your values, how you feel, think, behave, who you are.
- Letting others make choices for you
- Trying to please others by being who they want you to be.
- Doing things because no one else will? 
- Easier to do things yourself rather than ‘wait for’ or teach, someone else.
- Your relationships are abusive or codependent
- Not getting along with certain people/personalities types: Who? What type?
- Feeling alone, separate even when in a crowd or always distancing from others
- Feeling stuck, stressed, anxious, depressed, guilty, jealous (etc. )most of the time
- Always searching for security outside of yourself and never finding it
- Feeling like you 'have' to be a perfectionist
- Feeling like you always have to be talking and being uncomfortable with silence
- Always having to be in control of yourself, situations, others, life etc.
- Being overly sensitive to your feelings being hurt by others
- Dealing poorly with criticism
- Being oversensitive to what others say or do
- Looking for mr/mrs right, so you will be happy
- Stressed out easily, often, even by little things
- Living in denial
- Always giving, even when you don't have enough or it's not up to you
- Falling in love or sleeping with anyone who is nice/attracted to you
- Being sexual only because you fear losing someone's approval or love
- Spending your whole life working or doing
- Abusing your body with to much/little: food, sex, alcohol, drugs, work, exercise
- Being overly reckless and/or impulsive
- Trusting people too much and too quickly
- Never trusting anyone
- Expecting others to take care of you: parents, spouse, friends, family, employer
- Feeling anxious or depressed all the time
- Falling apart so others must take care of you
- Feeling sorry for yourself, (poor me attitude) as if it always rains on your parade
- Letting people touch you after you have said no or feeling afraid to say 'no don't touch me'
- Touching someone after you have been told no
- Feeling like a caretaker or that you have to take care of everyone else
- Abusing your mind, body, soul by doing what others want
- Taking advantage of others by violating their boundaries or without knowing when to stop