NLP Counselling Builds Assertiveness and Boundaries by phone in Canada & USA. Neuro Linguistic Programming teaches you to say no, heal over-sensitivity, criticism, conflict, independence.

Over-sensitive? We probably wouldn't worry about what people think of us if we could know how seldom they do ~ Olin Miller

Signs that you have poor boundaries and need assertiveness training are:

You can't say no? . . . . You help everyone but yourself?
You keep trying to please others? . .You don't know who you are?.
You keep trying to be who others want you to be?
You are 'over sensitive' to what others say or do?
You deal poorly with criticism? . . . You can't handle conflict?

'Since you can only change yourself, . . . NLP assertiveness training teaches you to perceive, understand and communicate better with your spouse, family, friends, children, socially, co-workers or boss . . . so you:

- develop healthy independence; you can be yourself with other people

- learn to 'say no' when you want to or when you need to

- learn skills to handle criticism resourcefully and with more choices

- develop greater ease dealing with conflict (again more choices)

- release over-sensativity to what others say or do

- gain understanding of yourself and others . . . so you can make your own choices

- build your ability to care for yourself in positive ways that work for you

- clear away negative emotions, stress, old issues, limiting beliefs and behaviors

- develop a positive attitude

- learn problem solving tools

NLP Exercise 2: Rate Your Unhealthy Boundaries In Each Life Area

Read through the list below and rate your unhealthy boundaries: -10 = worst; 0 = neutral. Remember that issues of a - 4 to -10 are deeply imbedded into your unconscious mind and require NLP techniques that make changes there. Scores over -30 means poor boundaries are disrupting your life. Over 90 signifies 'major disturbances' in your relationships

- Can't say no even when it's best to: family, friends, children, boss, socially (list who)
- Doing things you don't want to, because you feel you have to or should. With who? When?
- Poor self care; not taking care of yourself. When? Where?
- Trying to be what others want you to be
- Pleasing others (even against your values, wishes and beliefs) so they will like or love you
- Letting others control you, choose your values, how you feel, think, behave, who you are.
- Letting others make choices for you
- Trying to please others by being who they want you to be.Doing things because no one else will?
- Easier to do things yourself rather than ‘wait for’ or teach, someone else.
- Your relationships are abusive or codependent
- Not getting along with certain people/personalities types: Who? What type?
- Feeling alone, separate even when in a crowd or always distancing from others
- Feeling stuck, stressed, anxious, depressed, guilty, jealous (etc. )most of the time
- Always searching for security outside of yourself and never finding it
- Feeling like you 'have' to be a perfectionist
- Feeling like you always have to be talking and being uncomfortable with silence
- Always having to be in control of yourself, situations, others, life etc.
- Being overly sensitive to your feelings being hurt by others
- Dealing poorly with criticism
- Being oversensitive to what others say or do
- Looking for mr/mrs right, so you will be happy
- Stressed out easily, often, even by little things
- Living in denial
- Always giving, even when you don't have enough or it's not up to you
- Falling in love or sleeping with anyone who is nice/attracted to you
- Being sexual only because you fear losing someone's approval or love
- Spending your whole life working or doing
- Abusing your body with to much/little: food, sex, alcohol, drugs, work, exercise
- Being overly reckless and/or impulsive
- Trusting people too much and too quickly
- Never trusting anyone
- Expecting others to take care of you: parents, spouse, friends, family, employer
- Feeling anxious or depressed all the time
- Falling apart so others must take care of you
- Feeling sorry for yourself, (poor me attitude) as if it always rains on your parade
- Letting people touch you after you have said no or feeling afraid to say 'no don't touch me'
- Touching someone after you have been told no
- Feeling like a caretaker or that you have to take care of everyone else
- Abusing your mind, body, soul by doing what others want
- Taking advantage of others by violating their boundaries or without knowing when to stop

Healthy boundaries improve your confidence and relationships~ Jan Mitchell

As you and I work together, I individualize your NLP sessions for your specific needs. I coach you to make unconscious changes that are safe and long lasting.
As we change your 'poor boundary mental program' to the 'healthy boundaries mental program', your behavior will change. You'll say 'No' when you choose to, deal with criticism and conflict well, you'll gain new awareness, release the past and automatically integrate new choices and skills.

NLP 're-programs your brain' and you automatically develop healthy boundaries ~ Jan Mitchell

NLP Install's Healthy Boundaries:

- You be more your 'self' when you are with others
- You comfortably be assertive (in ways that work for you!)
- You deal constructively with criticism
- You handle conflict in healthier ways
- You develop your understanding & communication with others (& self)
- You let go of old relationships and issues (and move on)
- You choose your own thoughts, feeling and attitudes
- You make your own choices and decisions
- You are comfortably assertive (when you choose to be)
- You let others know what is important to you
- You take responsibility for yourself, your choices and your actions
- You let others do the same for themselves
- You retain balance in relationships
- You let go of control and being controlled
- You trust the process of life's ebb and flow
- You know that it's OK to say no
- You can be close to another person and still be yourself
- You define your own standards, values and beliefs
- You respect other peoples right to be themselves
- You take care of yourself
- You are whole and complete
- You are connected with your peaceful center
- You listen to your inner guidance
- You understand yourself & others
- You understand your 'reaction' to people & situations
- to be more fully yourself with others (take your power back)
- You overcome 'preset' negative mind programs and emotions
- You separate your feelings from other people's emotional 'stuff'
- You respond with greater choices & better communications
- You evaluate information you receive and make healthy choices
- You reprogram your mind and make firm supportive choices

Call 1-403-225-2973 Today For An Appointment To Change Your Tomorrows

Jan Mitchell, Master NLP Coach ~ Counselor of Long Distance Phone NLP Hypnosis with Expanding Minds does NLP Sessions in Canada and the United States

NLP Assertiveness Training NLP Heals Over Sensitivity ~ NLP Teaches You To 'Say NO' ~ Handle Conflict ~ Deal With Criticism ~ NLP Builds Boundaries

NLP Assertiveness Training NLP Heals Over Sensitivity ~ NLP Teaches You To 'Say NO' ~ Handle Conflict ~ Deal With* Criticism* ~ NLP Builds Boundaries