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NLP And Creative Stress Management Tools
. . NLP and Creative Stress Management Tools:
Read over the following NLP creative stress relievers and pick several to integrate into your life. Place reminders to use them in the places where you are during the day and evening:
Breathing: Hyperventilation, anxiety and panic attacks are linked with to coping with stress. When stressed, you breathe shallowly and use the upper chest muscles only. Bring your heart rate and breathing to normal with slow, long, deep ‘belly breaths’ for 3 to 5 minutes. Phone me for more Breathing Exercises.
Creative stress release: Think for a moment of stress as something you can handle, take action on or change. How does that change your experience of it? Take action, eliminate or change stressful situations. Say no more often, be more assertive in meeting your needs. Integrate ways to get the ‘stress energy’ out of your body.
Change your priorities: what’s important to you and what’s not. Are you listening to your intuition, living your values, beliefs and life purpose? Imagine your workload as a temporary situation and know you can work your way out of it. Make a list of things that MUST be done, prioritize into importance and begin, . . . one step at a time.
Delegate: to others what you can, and let them do it their way (there’s 100 ways to peal a potato)
Schedule your time with a day timer. Plan your life and what you need, want and choose to do. Keep some flexibility in your schedule.
Simplify life: use time saving appliances or people. Carpool, clean up, simplify your environment
Build a support system: Talking with someone who you trust to not judge or give advice, releases negative emotions, so you can see things clearly & you can take action. We all can use a support system.
Eat Healthy: nourishes your body and relieves everyday stress. Avoid stimulants etc.
Water your body: Enjoy a calming cup of herb tea, soothing juice or water. (body is 80+% water)
Get enough rest to replenish yourself. Sleep straight, sit straight, be aware of good posture.
Physical exercise is an excellent outlet for stress. Move your body, go for a walk, join a fitness group, aerobics, swim, bike, ski, skate, weight lifting, wash your car, etc. Let yourself enjoy. I repeat affirmations and breath while I’m on the Treadmill (I close my eyes and hold on)
Take a break: take that break before you become stressed or before you lose control. Take a time out in another room, walk around the block (office). If your are working, stop every hour for one minute to breath, go to the bathroom, stretch, look away or get water. If in a confrontation, remove yourself from the situation for 10 minutes, calm down, breath and then say what you need to from a ‘calm and caring’ space. This can clean up relationships or situations.
Include leisure time in your day, week, month: Schedule recreation, fun, time for people & things you enjoy.
Breathe: Nourish your body with ‘Belly Breathes’ or long, deep ‘belly breaths’ that fill your abdomen for 5 to 10 minutes. Make a goal to do this three times each day.
Laugh every day, tell a joke, watch comedy, read the funnies, have fun, do something silly
Be in nature: In the city or out, get fresh air, enjoy the sunshine.
Blessings: Count your blessings every day. This can be simple (Thanks for air, food, smile) or be more complex (thank you for my successful business, my loving relationships, my health, my gifts). Say your blessings every night at bedtime. (This is also a great thing to teach children.) By being thankful for the wonder in our lives, we go to sleep on this and create more of it.
Affirmations: Write out 5 to 10 positive affirmations that are positive, present (in the now), personal, powerful. (Eg: I Jan am a loving, beautiful, dynamic woman. I love and accept myself just as I am and I am willing to change. I am Powerful and I am loving. I am Powerful and I am Loved. I am Powerful and I love it. I Jan am Important.) Put your affirmations on 3 X 5 cards or make a tape. Say 3 X each in am and before bed or write them out daily adds the physical element of your body moving and learning.
Breathing Affirmations: Say your affirmation as you breathe in; hold your breath and say your affirmation; release breath and repeat affirmation. Do 5 to 10 of these. (as often as you wish)
I enjoy repeating affirmations and breathing while on the Treadmill.
Journal : feelings of stress, fear, anger and let them go. Journal, write a story or book. Get your thought out on paper. Write an anger letter that is ‘never’ sent. (and destroy it).
Relaxing Music: Play soothing or upbeat music, a relaxation or affirmation tape.
Accept yourself (and others) – Do your best and know that’s good enough. Be your own best friend, stop comparing yourself to others. You can't be the best at everything. Striving for perfection leads to worry, anxiety and failure. So give yourself a break. Know what you are good at and choose what area’s to improve in. Let go of the others.
Forgive: yourself and others
Develop patience with yourself , others and life.
Let go of criticism - Instead of being self critical or critical about the other person's shortcomings (real or imagined), focus on the good points within yourself & the other person.
Release Perfection: There is a time and place for perfection and doing a great job. Do not constantly expect perfection from yourself or others.
Let go of should, could, what if’s, can’t, shouldn’t, etc.
Express yourself, release stress, muscle tension, anger, frustrations, negative emotions from your body, before you take it out on someone else. Wiggle it out (imagine it leaving your body), take a walk, exercise, play tennis, do house or yard work, yoga, Tai Chi, dancing by yourself or partner, exercise three times a week, fitness group, sports, swim, stomp or run around the block. Yell, cry, stomp feet, punch pillow
Be good to you: Hobby, crafts, carpentry, painting, travel, art, take a course, learn something new, study. Find something that works for you: Put a do not disturb sign on your door, take a nap, Go to a nice cafe close to home, by yourself, enjoy a coffee and a great book or write. By yourself flowers. Thank yourself for a job well done or do the things that you love to do
Massage: Get a professional massage, ask a friend or learn to massage yourself. Have a relaxing hot bath, bubbles, candles, music
Pray: Let go & Let God. Place worries in God/Spirit’s hands, ask Angel’s or Guides to care for loved ones.
Imagine Washing your worries, fears etc., down the drain in the shower or bubble bath.
Meditation: Use an affirmation tape once or twice daily. Or create your own meditation tape with affirmations, music etc.. Let your mind visualize each affirmation. See yourself having this affirmation, feel how it would feel and hear yourself saying "Yes, I have it now" . Begin sitting quietly daily, simply let thoughts float through your mind. There are many ways to meditate: Prayer, yoga, Silva Method, Visualize a beautiful trip to the beach. A wonderful relaxing holiday.
Skip the News: unplug the phone, skip the stress, skip the TV and newspaper
Read a book, escape – a yummy romance or adventure, self help, inspirational or novel.
Visualize Positive outcome: Imagine a positive outcome in life and a happy now and wonderful future
Reframe: Discover the opportunity in the problem
Mindfulness: Slow down, notice, enjoy, be in the moment! Be here now!!
Live: Get busy living life. Instead of feeling left out waiting for someone to call, choose to make the first move, phone, write, act. Get involved, meet people.
Gain Perspective: Think of others: Feeling sorry for yourself? Think of or find people who have it much worse off than you in life. There is always someone in an awful situation that you are glad that that’s not you. A worse job, no money, no family or friends, poor health, grieving,
Give: Do something for others. Help someone else. Taking your mind off yourself can take the steam out of your own worries and give you the satisfaction of having helped someone else.
Get Emotional Help: Phone me if you need to. Emotional difficulties may come from marital trouble, childhood, longstanding habits, limiting beliefs etc. Counseling will help you recognize and change self- sabotaging patterns, relieve stress, be happy, confident and successful. Call me at 403-225-2973.
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